The World of Sid Kachumbari

Happy 2012

2012-01-20T03:42:00.000-08:00

Honey am hoooooooooooomme! yes am back, yes, was a great break, could not keep away, :) miss me?

winding down blog

2010-11-28T09:39:00.000-08:00

am thinking its time to wind down this blog, it has been grand, brilliant and amazing meeting all sorts of people, am not giving up blogging though, just taking this down, regrouping and pretty soon will be back with a new blog...

Quiet Moments

2010-11-10T23:53:00.001-08:00

the last couple of weeks I think its even been a month or more since I blogged anything #sensible. its strange. I have gotten into a groove where its all ok, life is good, go with the flow, ok had the flu also in between there for a week or so... #bleah man flu the worlds most deadly illness lol... I hate having flu... but on the upside I got to watch season #1 of the gates - osteria lanes meets interview with the vampire.... nice! I got to catch up on drop dead diva - #funniest... and in-between something or other cannot remember now & if I do am not saying, will sound like a weeping willow next...

moving along swiftly, plans for this month are look for thanksgiving parties to attend, crop friends list - time to get real about real friends, its funny if you think about it how many of your FB friends do you actually talk to like friends... enough for me to know time to get cracking...

so whats been going on out there? what I miss?

Welcome to the candy store LMAO!

2010-11-10T23:47:00.000-08:00

for those hump days and writers block days candy works, eye candy...

http://hoodsworld.blogspot.com/?zx=f7fb59a7a70bcb21

From Business Invisible to SocialMedia Presence.

2010-10-11T02:22:00.000-07:00

Marvin Tumbo is leading a half day Social Media Training workshop friday 29th October. ONLY 19 spaces left. For the first time ever here in East Africa come find out how to take your business, consultancy or organisation from invisible to social media recognition. Book tickets now, spread the word. ONLY 3k a ticket. Whats your business worth to you while its invisible on the net?

http://socialightmedia.eventbrite.com/

Social Media Trainig Workshop

2010-10-06T07:25:00.000-07:00

A first time, must attend opportunity. 20 places only for this first workshop @ only KShs 3,000/=

http://www.socialightmediakenya.com/training

Expecting anytime soon??

2010-10-05T03:20:00.001-07:00

so a friend and I were just chatting online and he says I have very high expectations and that's why am not meeting any good folk. So I asked him, how does he define the high expectations or even the expectations I have? he says go with the flow anything counts, am like what the fish you mean anything goes...LOL
So I said I dont think asking for no liars, thieves, married men and almost certainly kinda langa's dont work for me and I think that's reasonable. He say no! that's 2/3rds of the world... again what the fish!

apparently you almost certainly have to agree to date, hook up, sleep with and rack up as many liars, thieves, married folk and oh yes langas to be ok and reasonable in this life... ROTFLMAO!

Tibetan.monastry.com here is my application... am sure I will get more single genuine pals there then here LMAO! plus they are 'enlightened' and I think can float... kinky! hahahahaha

Vote for Evans Wadongo - CNN Hero 2010

2010-09-29T07:25:00.000-07:00

Vote as many times as possible for Kenyan Evans Wadongo to win the CNN Hero 2010 and spread the word. Here's the link:

http://heroes.cnn.com/vote.aspx

Out of my mind!

2010-09-28T02:46:00.000-07:00

I am the king of Sidsville,the emperor of Sidomania and the Grand Divalicious of SidKachumbaridom, the supreme high priest and ruler of all.... and its all in my mind...

So I got a reality check yesterday, while I am clear this is all in my mind that I am the most important and most neglected and undiscovered perfect relationship partner ever in the history of mankind... having coffee with a friend yesterday I suddenly realised there are guys and gals out there who may not be able to tell the difference as clearly as I can say it, that are struggling with for lack of a better word, and i detest this word, their 'demons'. My friend is seeing a 'shrink' and while am quite quick to say its all hogwash, after 2 hours of tea and talking I was clear its not hogwash for them, its their life and they are dealing with it perfectly consistent with how the world is occuring for them.

So todays blog is this, listen, have coffee with someone on your mind, and give up your kingdom and empire every so often for an hour. Sometimes thats all we want, someone to listen to us... :)

mis-alignment of the stars

2010-09-21T02:40:00.000-07:00

So now the stars, winds, moons, dust and feathers have mis-aligned again and I am getting married men sending me messages again??? were the chicken wings, goat beard, frogs belly and chilly ginger sauce I sacrificed last year not enough!!!!! ye gods!! LMAO

Yaaawwwnnnn Its Monday

2010-09-20T00:27:00.000-07:00

I have a new rule: Monday's should start at 12noon and end by 430pm.

Have a great week everyone...

staying power

2010-09-13T02:34:00.000-07:00

Heard this great theory once, that what kind of staying power do you have? and I don't mean sex in bed or anything like that, BUT, when your out o attain something, how much patience, tolerance or how strong is your will power on the road to get it? hmmmm have yourselves a great week then.... oh and the other part was human beings have a very high tolerance for holding grudges but a very low tolerance for compassion and forgiveness... LMAO! go figure.

Blue Skies...

2010-09-10T01:27:00.001-07:00

Ahhhhhhhhhh..... out with the Grey, in with the Blue, Bright, and Cheerful weather... Greetings and Salutations to all, and Eid Mubarak to our Muslim Brothers and Sisters

Created versus Inherited Culture

2010-09-09T00:24:00.000-07:00

The Macmillan English Dictionary defines culture as a society or group of people that has it own set of ideas, beliefs and ways of behaving. Culture in my opinion and has been said, is either inherited or created. You inherit a culture that you grow up in defined by your ethnic background, where you live, spirituality, up bringing, parents, friends, education etc etc OR you create a culture and start living into it e.g. lets have sex first then see if we can be in a relationship, hook ups are a normal way of life, show me yours then I will show you mine then we hook up, and am not talking face pics here and you know it... lol you get the gist of it so far right?

I am yet again stunned and amused by how the gay culture in Nairobi has been created and is now lived as norm. Yesterday within 3 IM messages am already being asked when we hooking up?!?!?! WTF!! PLEASE NOTE: neither of us has ever met, ever seen each other, only read profiles and its already I love your profile can we hook up this weekend and see what you think??

Well, here is what I think - BEEP! BEEP! BEEP! BACK THAT TRUCK UP NOW!! How in the name of desperate housewives, will and grace and JUST JACK! did this become the norm? or did I do a Rapunzel (she the diva that slept right?! NKTEST!) and fall asleep for a thousand years and have just woken up... LMAO!

Am sure there are numerous relationships of value, valor, love and passion that have been born of instant, initial meetings, I don't deny that and admire and am in awe of them, however, lets look at the current trend, well lets look at what I observe is the current trend; if your not accepting shags left right and center there something wrong with you and your blocked on websites, LOL, if you talk a lot and don't give sex your just as bad as not giving sex immediately, your blocked off, LMAO, if you don't have a face-ass picture of a Hollywood star, porn star, someone else on fb, or Chris Brown your...lol sweet mary mother of Tyra and Ru Paul we be fierce about it...

Oh and my new bestest favorite scenario is when you don't know someone well enough, they see you regularly at parties and clubs, and one day the psycho in them wakes up and accuses you of ignoring them and not wanting them - WTF! did I just walk into the twilight Zone? The X-Files? the truth is out there?!?!?! no its not? Just say no! stop taking expired Panado'ls! and get with the programme... Mature men like mature men. People like people, not actors, porn stars and wannabe diva's... LMAO See how simple that statement is? no drama, no if's or's and's and but's... Mature men like Mature men. People like People. Simple, easy to remember and just for the heck of it, damn sexy!

Someone said to me last month, its hard enough globally for gay men to get into solid lasting monogamous relationships - when you add ingredients such as drama, diva's, bi-curious my ass your not, and some con manship and again high drama, you get this... A life of struggle and effort, no ease and grace and probably, and again this is my opinion only, a series of hook ups that rotate like the rvolving doors of the Hilton, in - out - in - out - in 'any luggage sir' - out - 'thank you for visiting do come again' - in - 'how can we help you today sir' - out - 'your now one of our favorite clients' - in 'will that be single double or 3 some sir' - out...

One of the things I love most about being human, is free will - I can choose freely, live in a created culture, an inherited culture or create my own culture. Imagine that! Freedom to be, to choose... oh and yes freedom to laugh at myself and the insanity of being human, what else are you going to be? Bambi? LMAO. Adios Amigo's... Have a free day...

Propheteering and the likes...

2010-09-07T05:51:00.000-07:00

Remember this Blog?

http://sidkachumbari.blogspot.com/2010/04/rambling-returns-season-2-part-7.html
and rule #1 Bubble butts not for you but for the observers... NKTest! now its been banned in a certain town in Geroria, USA I think am visionary and a prophet.... LMAO! check this out:
http://edition.cnn.com/2010/CRIME/09/05/georgia.baggy.pants.law/#fbid=5wKCdxahKYC&wom=false

To have and to hold

2010-09-06T21:56:00.000-07:00

There is an ideal movie like image out there in my village of idiots aka my mind about one day finding the one and waking up to this all the time. It a universal want, love, companionship, trust...

I had one of those deep deeeeep sleeps last night the kind when u wake up your like OMG! thats some kick ass sleep, looked out, saw stunning blue sky... wanted to share it with someone... awwww I hear in the background... lol so sharing it with you all... the view from my window...

B3 - Bloggers Brain Block

2010-09-06T00:41:00.000-07:00

In what can only be described as B3 - Blogger's Brain Block, I have been out of it kinda for a while. Its been an interesting, roller-coaster mental mind trip - by the way don't trust your thoughts too much - mine is a village of idiots with a mad man as mayor commander in chief and town clerk...lol

moving along swiftly, couple of things have realised, I was stunned into reality when a chat friend said to me recently that am an introvert - what?! me? how? when? so we talk about this for a bit and I actually start to see what he is pointing to... I spend all my time following the following sequence - home work home work friends family home work friends family home work.... and then bitch about no relationship... the insanity of it all, how will i meet anyone between home work family and the internet - LMAO!

There are days I swear I think I talk more to myself than anyone else, thats kinda red neck spooky scary... especially when its complete sentences with answers LMAO

its funny that when I think of all the people I love or think are fierce, funky, sexy cool, they all hang out wherever they do and they don't necessarily go out with the intention of multitasking hook ups and drinks and dancing - yea that's the image in my village of idiots 42" HD screen...lol

they go out enjoy themselves, are organic in when where how, new places new faces new people... so am now thinking this suburban lifestyle of the watu are out there and am over here has hit expiry date. Oh and from what I hear the fiercest bubble butted hard working fine ladies and gentlemen of the fabulous persuasion all live across town from suburbia - now thinking of being a local tourist - hey hey isn't the govt always telling us to support local tourism anyway ?!?!?!!?

Aha! its monday its random and I did some serious Voodoo Session with some absolute Clearly Fabulous peeps yesterday AND never doing it again on a Sunday by the way and if I do spank me now !!!!! lol

y'all have yourselves a game filled talent searching local touristy kinda week then...

Eye Candy for a user unfriendly day

2010-09-02T09:58:00.000-07:00

enjoy...

meandering thoughts

2010-09-02T04:09:00.000-07:00

Am having one of those wandering thought afternoons, ox-bow lake like... hmmm i think me need some drama, scandal or just pure injection of the creative kind, the seditious kind or even just the plain silly flirting kind, coffee drinking white chocolate eating days soon... maybe I will go to a mall and enjoy the eye candy this weekend....

If I had a hammock that is where I would be, blanket, vino, book...

staring out into space, plotting, planning, nodding in and out of sleep...

How long is long enough?

2010-08-25T01:26:00.000-07:00

Get your minds out of the gutter you heathen you!!! LMAO

So am driving around the other day and every time I see some talent I look at them right, then after a while of doing this I realize every time they look back and hold the stare I pull away quite soon, then had the thought how long is long enough o hold a stare?

when is it looking at talent? appreciating talent? acknowledging I like you, do you like me? and when is it OMG! freak staring at me?!?!?!?! LMAO

Your health in your hands

2010-08-23T02:08:00.000-07:00

Sid Kachumbari invites all MSM to make a difference with health care and diagnosis in this country. A survey conducted by the Kenya Govt. The CDC and NASCOP is looking for/at Dynamics of men who have sex with men and the community, HIV and STI in the community and its impact, Behavioral patterns and also they will be collating some statistics. It is private, discreet and will make a difference for you and me. If interested get in touch for contacts and who to call.

hold that thought

2010-08-22T11:14:00.000-07:00

You know when they start chatting you up online and they start with sema? so where are you? what you doing ? or be my lover? (OK made that last one up...lol but you know when they do that and you hit that edge of OK Hold that thought for a moment or on second thought hold your breath while I think?? LMAO anyone had one of those today BUT got to give this brother a hand... he was clear... after the first couple of pleasantries got to the point... bareback or lets not waste each others time! shock on me! a man who tells it like it is, for him. Hmmmmmmmmmm there is hope yet.

PS. whats your favorite hold that thought chat up line then?

Homosexuality around the world - David Kuria on CNN

2010-08-17T01:38:00.000-07:00

Check out the CNN clip on Homosexuality all over the world - David Kuria, Manager at G.A.L.C.K on the clip.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zN_yWjZ6Qgs

SEX LAW, EROTIC DISSIDENTS, SEXUAL IDEOLOGY PRODUCERS AND VICTIMLESS CRIMES?

2010-08-17T00:57:00.000-07:00

Check out David Kuria's latest article on sex laws and victimless crimes at:
http://www.gaykenya.com/news/weekly-columnist/david-kuria/3764.html

Now on Facebook

2010-08-12T02:00:00.001-07:00

http://www.facebook.com/twitter/?setup=1#!/pages/Sid-Kachumbari/151379834876247?ref=ts

Happily ever after - a fairytale

2010-08-12T00:25:00.000-07:00

Once upon a time in a far far away land there lived a young man, lets call him Zed, who believed one day he would meet his prince charming. Yes. His prince. Unlike any other kingdom this was a 'Fairy'tale kingdom, with Kings and Queens galore.

Now legend has it that deep in the heart of this kingdom there was a forest. A rich dark forest where people dared only to think of going into. Where the demons were great and the sounds devilishly grim. And in the heart of this forest there lived, according to legend only you understand, there lived a noble prince, a secluded prince, a prince who was lost and alone, banished from his kingdom. The interesting thing was no one could recall why he was banished. Even he could not recall. Everyone knew he was banished - and that was that. Isn't it strange how with time we forget the most interesting things that matter?

Back in the 'fairy'tale kingdom Zed was going about his days, working, lusting, thinking, planning and plotting - he knew prince charming was on the way, so he had to make sure everything was right as rain - just in case you see. Everyday had to be perfect, every task perfect, every thing perfect.

The strange thing about it was that over the years Zed had met many many princes, kings and queens and according to him, he was still waiting for prince charming so no one else was going to get in the way of that day, that moment that life...

to be continued...

1 is not the loneliest number

2010-08-10T01:58:00.000-07:00

I saw this article in the morning and posted it on Fb and now here, its a simple, very empowering and sensible look at relationships and being alone or lonely and with someone, many people, no one... check it out.

http://www.bitchmagazine.org/post/the-dating-game-one-isnt-the-loneliest-number

days roll into 1

2010-08-02T21:45:00.000-07:00

hmmm been away from here for a while, mostly work part writers block, well, not sure its writters block as more about blahhhh kinda days all rolling into one. hmmmmm,.... visual candy now... :)

The Butterfly Effect

2010-07-17T08:40:00.000-07:00

The butterfly effect is a metaphor that encapsulates the concept of sensitive dependence on initial conditions in chaos theory; namely that small differences in the initial condition of a dynamical system may produce large variations in the long term behavior of the system.

The butterfly effect is a common trope in fiction when presenting scenarios involving time travel and with "what if" scenarios where one storyline diverges at the moment of a seemingly minor event resulting in two significantly different outcomes.

Said another way, take the gay community in kenya is an existing, living , breathing and naturally evolving system. At any given moment any one thing you do or say could alter the future of that system. For example having coffee with someone could alter the future of the system in any number of ways, ending a relationship, sleeping with someone, kissing someone, chatting up someone, could irrevocably and intrinsically alter the future of the system.

Since watching Jurassic park #1, the only true and best one where DR Ian Malcolm, played by Jeff Goldblum, talks about his career as a chaotician, I have had a fascination with the butterfly effect theory. Its amazing to think if I sneeze on a date maybe a hurricane will strike in Venezuela, or if you say I love you to your boyfriend, human rights in Africa will be affected. Crazy as it sounds when I use those examples its what the butterfly effect says... one action here and now, can alter the future forever.

The next time your out on a date, chat with someone online, say I love you, don't say I love you, be mean, be nice, hold back, bark at someone, sleep all day on the couch, cuddle up, ask someone out on a date, don't ask someone out on a date, have a think, hmmmmm

what future have I just created?

Sell by date

2010-07-08T01:45:00.000-07:00

A friend and I were just chattin on IM, god bless IT, and he says 'are you not worried about your sell by date?" he was refering to getting to 40 and if still single getting married. WTF! do you have a cut off time for married, 'married' or partnered or your getting married?

LOL and I said to him sorry, I never signed that contract. Bottom line for me is quality not quantity. whats your bottom line, pardon the pun?

thought for the day

2010-07-07T21:25:00.000-07:00

all it takes is one step at a time, and anything is possible, one step out of bed today in this cold is the first one... lol lakini baridi!!!!!

Flirting 101

2010-07-05T01:10:00.000-07:00

Its been a most interesting year so far in a lot of ways, this blog, the people I have met, talked to, flirted with, been blonde and missed opportunities with...lol, been resigned about, you know, life, the works, the whole kit and caboodle, lock stock and 2 smoking barrel's of it all.

Now I know am one of the most daring, flirtatious and maybe mad thinkers out there, and by that I mean in my circle of friends lol, and one of the most and I say this with a amazed grin and eager interest, one of the interesting things am actually considering at the moment is that I may be a boring nerd. now some of you may fight to disagree with me and I hope to god at least there is one or two of you... maybe a stampede or two... LMAO but back to the point...

I have discovered am not the kind of guy who gets invited to impromptu parties and dinners. Now don't get me wrong here, I love my company and am clear its what I have done for years and probably will continue to do, however, sometimes when I sit and hear friends talk about all the parties and dinners they go to, I have a twinge of regret for not being smoother, more suave, more mysterious maybe...lol

Sometimes I think I confuse being mysterious with being alone and being suave with being able to tell interesting stories and jokes... who knows. At the end of the day, well start of the day and week I leave you with this thought... the world was flat until someone sailed over the edge, there was nothing beyond the sky till the telescope was invented, life is a game and the whistle has not been blown yet... adventure and risk, inertia and regret are part of life, as my father says about loosing weight, embrace hunger, he heard this on Oprah and rarely admits it, I say embrace life. What else you got to do anyway?

lazy sun days

2010-07-04T06:48:00.001-07:00

lazy sun days call for nothing but a good book, a movie or great chilled out music and company. Hope yours is the best it can be...

wordpress here I come

2010-07-03T01:33:00.001-07:00

Today I am moving over to wordpress... Blogspot been good to me been my first love in blogging... time this baby took some steps now...see ya'll over on the other side. xoxo

creature comforts

2010-07-01T21:34:00.001-07:00

Cold mornings beg fr creature comforts; stay in bed, cuddles and hugs, watch movie, hot drink.... hmmmmmm too bad I have to go to work then. LOL

Forging and Craftsmanship

2010-06-30T22:31:00.000-07:00

A Japanese sword, or nihontō, is one of the traditional bladed weapons of Japan. There are several types of Japanese sword, according to size, field of application and method of manufacture. The forging of a Japanese blade typically took weeks or even months and was considered a sacred art. As with many complex endeavors, rather than a single craftsman, several artists were involved.

There was a smith to forge the rough shape, often a second smith (apprentice) to fold the metal, a specialist polisher (called a togi) as well as the various artisans that made the koshirae (the various fittings used to decorate the finished blade and saya (sheath) including the tsuka (hilt), fuchi (collar), kashira (pommel), and tsuba (hand guard)). It is said that the sharpening and polishing process takes just as long as the forging of the blade itself.

So you might be wondering what does this have to do with anything or where is this going... bear with me a minute and you will find out. A friend was in my office the other day adn we were talking abut music, technology and for the life of me I cannot remember how I connected the following dots - we live in an age of high technology - we wnat instant gratification - we have less patience - marriages and relationships are failing faster and with more velocity in my opinion - and samurai swords were a treasured artifact, they took time, sweat, tears, pride and were treasured. See, there is a metjod to my maddness.

I have heard of more man-drama, friends hook up, break up, get 'married', break up and do over in the last year than ever before. Now maybe its because am now more clued in to more people, welcome to the information superhighway of social media at high velocity, or its simply more prevalent. Even for myself in the last year I have met more people, attempted to date more, meet more, a couple of hook ups, that's a big deal for me by the way, at 38 years some people find it amazing I have only been in 3 relationships, sue me, I believe in quality over quantity...

But if we take the case for a moment, consider this, if you want a long term relationship, and by long term I mean over 1 year...lol... you have to forge it, from scratch, over time, with sweat, tears maybe, work is required, details to manage, quality to create, expectations to give up, love to sharpen, companionship to craft and even loyalty to mold. As I said way back when, am a hopeless romantic, and the nature of my being is quality will always beat quantity. So is there a method to your madness? are you willing to craft a masterpiece with the time, sweat and tears that may come with it? Have a great week and forge on with faith and valor, oh ye Samurai Masters of life and love...

Gay men and their addictions

2010-06-22T21:06:00.001-07:00

Whats your cotton candy, your chocolate cup cake, your sexy boot fetish or your must have addiction? I just read a blog that mentioned men and their addictions; what they do for the adrenalin rush, thrill of the chase. heart pumpin moment... is it the next conquest, the bi-curious you wanna break? the banker, the married athlete, the gym bunny or the infamous rugby player, stories abound about gay rugby players, I was even offered a 3some once if I could find someone a gay rugby pplayer... ?!?!?! I think its an urban myth... thats until I find them, maybe, possibly, wishfully??? lol

whatever your addiction is... and I know what mine is and not tellin! whatever your addiction is, the question becomes, do you have the addiction or does the addiction have you???

Chicken or the egg?

2010-06-16T02:13:00.000-07:00

There is an idea for a blog brewing based on a conversation with a friend early this morning. Whats going on out here with gay men, did the free for all sex hungry shag me first then I see if we can relate culture come first and we are living into it and having our gaylings grow up into it OR are we creating it for the gaylings to grow up into and its becoming the culture here? Hmmmm more soon

making a difference

2010-06-08T00:32:00.001-07:00

If your on Facebook today, check out the page Fundraising for Alexa: The Banda Project and make the difference you want to see in the world. Spread the word also.

Thank you.

make it your business not mine

2010-06-07T00:32:00.000-07:00

When a brotha comes over for a sunday hook up and does not bring at least one condom.... I ask you... what the good golly mad hatter pencil in eye ball sticking lame quick kick ass joker in a box of 1 card are you thinking?

I have mine, where are yours? Brotha men! - MAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS NOT ANYONE ELSES!

The Language of life

2010-06-05T04:14:00.000-07:00

It has been said that the world exists in language, word, words. Remember this, in the beginning was the word... Life, love, happiness, even cruelty and sadness all exist in language, our speaking, what we say hear, talk abut, not talk about and even tolerate.

The man or woman who stands there and says I love you, is only creating a world with the words, you cannot touch love you can describe love, you cannot smell sadness but you can experience how its said, you cannot sense hate except when you hear it in words and hear it in words. The world exists in language. Language creates life.

Imagine living in a world where what you say gets to be. I love you now matter what becomes the world you live in... A friend of mine, who is new to following this blog, noticed a specific difference I mentioned on a chat. I said I want a boyfriend, I don't need one. Much too often we make the slight but loud mistake of thinking we need something rather than want it. You don't need anyone to make you happy, you don't need anyone to make you complete whole and perfect.

You are whole complete and perfect first and then you meet someone and make a life, create a relationship and grow a relationship - only and only because you say so, in language, to yourself, to others. You are who you say you are, as big as you say you are, as brilliant as you say you are, as lovable, gorgeous and beautiful as you say you are. No one else get to make that call. Only you and I do.
There are a million and one ways that we can create what we want who we are and how to deal with how the world is occuring to us. The way the world occurs to you will always give you the thoughts, feelings, actions and language you speak. Its a rather straight thought am having today so lets gay it up a bit for illustrative purposes. How do you relate to yourself as a gay man lesbian woman or however you identify yourself? whats the language you use and speak? does it create a life you can be proud of or is it just a way to survive the thoughts, slings and arrows that come your way.

I dont need a relationship, I dont need a man, I want a relationship, I want a man who is a man who loves men, and inside the words I speak and share and create I get to create the world or a world I want to live in.

If you could take on creating a life, a world that was worthy of your life, what would you create, how would you talk about it, or even how would you want to hear people talk about it? what would it be? How could you create your life, what language would you use or are you using and tolerating around you? Its amazing what 27 letters of the alphabet can do.

Do we live in Parallel Universes?

2010-06-03T02:21:00.000-07:00

Parallel universe or alternative reality is a self-contained separate reality
coexisting with one's own. The term "parallel universe" is more general, without any connotations implying a relationship, or lack of relationship, with our own universe. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parallel_universe_%28fiction%29 OR said another way are you living in the many different times and spaces at the same time?

Let me explain: the average gay man, and when I say average I am only talking about Don Sid Kachumbari, himself and himself alone as an example, has many persona's all existing AND at the heart of it being the same person.

I am the shoulder to cry on and lean on, I am the bitchy queen, the brilliant career person and the bold flirtatious man who will make grown men come and cry...lol OPS! Did I do that. Lets not forget the hopeless romantic, the playa, the scared, the innocent, the bold and the audacious by night and weekend BUT banker, lawyer, doctor, architect,manager, physicist, researcher by day, multiple personas same person different times all at the same time - parallel universes.

So by some hunger driven lunch thought process I started to connect parallel universes and the lives of LGBTIQ (watch the alphabet grow...)

Whenever some people think of parallel universes and alternative universes we think of star trek, boldly going where no man has gone before, which later changed to where no one has gone before, we think of aliens with 3 eye and big ears and bad hair, tacky clothes, weird accents, ahhhh did I just describe a typical gay party there? LMAO

see, there you go I exist in another parallel universe called ironic, intellectual and maybe creative writer. Hmmmm.... food for thought. If you could exist anywhere, any time, and anyway you wanted, what would it be?

Party Shy or Party Pooper?

2010-05-31T00:36:00.000-07:00

So I went to this roof top party at the mall on Saturday and a couple of things struck me before during and after;

Before: I soooooooooooooooooo did not want to go, the idea of bieng daddy bear at a party with most if not all 20 somethings in Nairobi was daunting, aging and just plain devastating as an idea. The prevailing thought being OMG! I will be grand daddy there... lol

During: much to my surprise and shock, and lets deal with both those shock first, it was actually a really nice venue, I love the open air and space and un crowded in a tin can feel it had, there were alo tof men and women I knew had not seen in a while and was introduced to. The shock part was the 3 guys who came up to me and said hi your blah blah, replace with my name, how are you? and afetr speaking to them the resounding answer for how they knew me was one of the following face book, i was your friend on face book or we chatted on romeo/face book some time back. Flash back to deer caught in head lights image in my mind, Oh! shoot? what did I say to them or not say to them .lol

After: I left the party at about 315am I think, an evening well spent and enjoyed with friends, and by the way if oyu have not seen Sex and the City, your ohhhhh sooooooo not gay!!!! LMAO!

Last but not least I was speaking to a friend of mine yesterday on FB as I lounged all day in bed, and he was shocked and stunned that I went to a party, did not pick anyone up and bring home or go home with or even as he says at the very least kiss and tell.... is this what we have come to? that its a 'sin' to go to a party and not make out pick up shag or be shagged within 6 hours of the event? call me old fashined, cuddle up, kiss and stay in bed, make breakfast together meet my family and single, which I am, is there a connection there am missing?? , or call me conservative but my mama did not bring me up to be a drop trou on a first date, first party or first bump into u in the bathrooms kinda guy, and FYI, if i just saw you kiss 3 guys in the last hour with no worries, why do you think I want to be number 4???

Have I become a prude in my maturity? or have I lost the secret super power of flirting and getting a hook up that is actually worth talking to the next morning or is that guy just an urban myth?

An age of innocence

2010-05-24T22:11:00.000-07:00

we live in an age of innocence i think. innocent about why cheating, why single, why not now, why later innocent about what part we play in the grand ol scheme of life.

The Don has just returned from walkabout and holiday. South Africa was destination. Life thinking was the accidental mission. (blogs to come).

back to my thought train this morning... human nature is primal, sexual and group inclined. we are lust animals that cant survive alone, combined with being innocent about it all????? Hmmmmmmm

Interesting train me thinks, time to flesh it out I reckon...

Its not always a Thong song...

2010-05-06T02:40:00.001-07:00

The thong is a garment worn either as underwear or as a swimsuit by both women and men. The garment from the front can look like a regular bikini bottom, but on the back the material that holds the front up is reduced to a minimum and typically designed to sit between the wearer's buttocks.
The word "g-string" is often used interchangeably with the word "thong". However, the g-string is only one form of the thong. Clear about what the definition is now?!? Good lets analyse the reality of it now...

I have a new 3 principle theory - there are 3 kinds of people in the world

Thong Theory#1

The Thwow People... hmmmm finger licking chocolate dripping wanna dot dot dot to you...

Thong Theory#2

the Thwong people - please tell me you were raised by a pack of dancing deaf and dumb vegan wolves deep in the heart of the amazonian forest speaking mandlin kikuyu how did u leave the house like that?

Thong Theory#3

The Thongoh people - truly absurd... speechless now and its thong Thursday somewhere in the world every day... proof positive below...
This was to have been a fun-witty blog about the un-bubble butted men and women who INSIST and I repeat INSIST on wearing thongs and G-Strings all over Nairo-smebdy beta-bbery this person and their thong string right now. What it turned out to be is a new ground breaking Thongology classification system based on my observations walking around, in malls, streeets, shops and restaurants where THANK YOU BUTT NO NOT THAT SET OF BUNS THANK YOU hilarious lunch time oggling images and putting this together...

So where are you now, raised by the one eyed, ops sorry, blind deaf dumb vegan wolves lot???? or the good hmmmmm I wanna eat you up tribe or the WTF?! is that your wearing I have no words for you, am crying with laughter...

better end now... for I shure have lost ma mind.....lol

Of virginal tales and truths being told

2010-05-05T00:54:00.000-07:00

So my favourite coloumnist and ex-pimp master flash, (ex cause he could not sort a buddy out Nktest!) LMAO!! if you have not seen his new post, http://www.gaykenya.com/news/weekly-columnist/columnist-denis-nzioka/3701.html, go ahead, try it out, he doesn't bite, well unless u ask him to...;) its a tale of virginal truths being told... as always DN - kudos.

This pic just to get your attention to read the link...:)

Hot and Spicy - Hard to Swallow

2010-05-02T10:31:00.000-07:00

Ever seen food that you started drooling over? or imagined what you want to eat as u order it for take away, then u get home and start eating and WHAM! too hot or spicy to handle...

Then there are the situations where you talk about what you want, get all worked up about it, plan the day, time, look, taste, you imagine it all and then you order it on the day and then - ARRRGGGHHHHHH!!!! sorry we dont serve that anymore it off the menu now... WTF!!!!

This is a short and bitter blog, short cause dont want to harp on or dwell on it, and bitter cause its hard to swallow... (not that u kinky bastards LMAO!?!?!?!?!) and that's part of the missing.

So here I am chatting with another friend who like me, has been ona search for mr right, or mr right now, even mister i wanna hubba hubba hubba dodododod u right now...lol and guess what?
yup - he found himself one... wtf!!!! kindaLMAO (half heartedly...)

its strange, no, weird and saddish watching a friend find someone when u been talking them up to just do it, get out of your shell, take a risk, jump off and fly and then they actually do and you standing on the edge watching them soar, glide...

hmmmm this is longer than i intended. time to end it. mixed berry juice here I come baby!!! ... Have yourselves a Muzuri Maddness May

P.S. Sid taking a southern bound trip soon here's for the sweet and sour, hot and spicy.

Fit, Fine & Fabulous

2010-04-28T03:15:00.000-07:00

In todays world of high speed performance, and no am not talking about IT or engineering and science, and yes they are some of the most high tech, super - high speed growth areas, am talking about athletics, there are not many openly LGBTI personalities.

I just read a blog post by Seba's Space and started to wonder. Here is the link to Seba's Space blog:
http://afrogay.blogspot.com/2010/04/columbia-university-sprinter-is-openly.html
and http://www.outsports.com/os/index.php/component/content/article/24-people/130-out-black-dartmouth-college-runner-shares-his-experiences

Then I figured let me Google openly gay athletes:

However you look at it, Shakespeare said it best:
This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

so where you walk, bolt, hop, skip or jump - be yourself and the rest will follow.

REPOSTING - Saggy DO Saggy DONT

2010-04-27T12:19:00.000-07:00

here are the do's and dont...

The good the bad and the downright NEVA! OR I WILLBIATCH SLAP U RIGHT NOW!!!!! PULL THEM PANTS UP!!!

pictures for those who cannot concentrate without visual displays...LOL they even have a website:
http://saggersgonewild.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=17&Itemid=34

Rambling Returns season #2 part 7 episode 71

2010-04-22T03:12:00.000-07:00

Its been a while since the last post partly due to what i say is writers block and partly what i deny is resignation and cynicism. I found twitter the other day - am a tweet now...lol something about instant messaging on a global level with a limit of characters both letters andf the fictional kind that is seductive right now.

Its lunch time, am cranky kidogo and ona random rambling episode pf sharing what and where i have been recently. PARENTAL ADVISORY WARNING: THIS COULD BE HILARIOUS ADDICTIVE AND BORING.

#1 People without bubble butts should be banned by law, nature and gravity from wearing saggy pants - saggy pants were NOT designed for you the wearer but fro us the observers and why in the name of the gods of prada, gucci, versace and levi do oyu think we should or want to see your Arse(nil) boxer shorts?!?! you are not a jailhouse rock and when I say rock - read -, built, hard, tattoo's and drop dead six pack racked gorgeous...

#2 In the moment of redefining or thinking of redefining how I occured for people I forgot a fundermental aspect - am super-cool and what the fishnet wearing langa on k-street with new heels on broke ass wednesday am I thinking trying to re-de-fine sid kachumbari - re-de-fine here means to me take away the fine ass character defined over many many years of mastering the art of flirtation, seduction and kick ass adventure - we together now! never eva and in the lingua-drama you may understand- evah evah re-de-fine anything...

#3 when I grow up I want to be a social commentator - sounds so much better more savvy more distinguished that my next job will be social commentating or, I want to get paid to blog, tweet and write a coloumn for nation (just an example!) its an extraordinary thing to realise the word is limitless again and the social construct of the world, here philosophical no clue what am creating sentences i think i know coming, is fast being overtaken by the information super highway and fast times we live in. There are days it feels like standing on a side walk watching the world zoom past, used to be walk on by, then drive by, then fly by, now its someting along the lines of rip-thru time by as we watch what we created pull us along whip lash and all... when Gene Roddenberry wrote the future in Star Trek, he created a world so far beyond reality, that has now become so real it makes all things technological verbarate (is that a word?!? sounds sexy though...) anywhoo - when I grow up I want to be a social commentator, distinguished, admired and listen to with the awe and gobsmackiness of a pop idol on heat...

#4 I want new Timberland boots - just saying is all.

#5 There are some damn fine looking peeps on Tinsel and Jacobs Cross - ehhhhhhh!!!!! Kenyan scriptwriters, casting is for us not U! focus! ji-pangeni! we consumer - u writer - make us happy kapish!!!!

#6 Episode #5 above still makes me laugh

#7 I started watching videos again the other day, now for some of you this is a foreign language so stay with me. There are machines called VHS - you put a big blcky tape in them and Voila - a movie shows ...wwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaooooooowwwwww! you might say - can believe i just said that........ I watched Interview with the vampire, A young brad pitt, tom cruise, antonio banderas and what the heck happened to, christian slater.... extraordinary performance i still think by, Kirsten Dunst as Claudia. Before that I watched Tunguska, X-File-ophiles will know this one, I watched fried green tomatoes and what I think is one of the all time best movies ever written - Fargo. Its a strange phenomenon to say am watching video to some one and they say What? who? hehehe am extending the idea of boho-chic - thank you skoonk dearest for this re-invention, into daily life.

how to end this now.....hmmmmmm. END.

twitter not so suave'

2010-04-16T05:23:00.000-07:00

On this not so hot nor so cold day Sid is attempting to get twitter sauave' to not much success, yes its that kinda friday...

here my twitter link - follow me!

http://m.twitter.com/sidkachumbari

no rest even after death?

2010-04-12T07:05:00.000-07:00

Did anyone else read this post?

http://thingsifeelstronglyabout.blogspot.com/2010/04/even-after-death-abuse-against-gays.html

truly disturbing.

R U Rich and Ugly or Poor and Stunning

2010-04-08T04:38:00.001-07:00

IF you were asked to choose between a rich ugly man and an unemployed stunningly gorgeous well built bubble butted well hung kinda whateva rocks your boat kinda gal or guy what would you choose?

now before u all jump straight in with perfect life affirming perfect altruistic answers...lol size dont matter - yes they say that who they anyway... lol - check out the new Article by Denis Nzioka our first openly gay columnist waiting to be discovered and scooped up by a outstanding courageous cutting edge media house to enlighten the unenlightened and of course less fabulous then we are... ahm ahm...lol

check this out and add to your blog, lets make him famous why don't we...lol (p.s then he owes us shit loads of drinks when he gets there)...

http://www.gaykenya.com/news/weekly-columnist/columnist-denis-nzioka/3687.html

Stand up and be counted - together as one

2010-04-03T01:22:00.001-07:00

check this out and be the change u want to see in the country.

http://www.gaykenya.com/our-activities/out-of-the-closet/3686.html

Know your rights - LGBTI

2010-03-31T21:47:00.001-07:00

Know your rights, go to this link if u have not seen it,

http://www.gaykenya.com/news/3023.html

be good, be careful, wear a glove... :)

Blogger Buzz: Blogger integrates with Amazon Associates

2010-03-27T13:12:00.000-07:00

Blogger Buzz: Blogger integrates with Amazon Associates

pseudonames got game?

2010-03-04T02:44:00.000-08:00

Random lunch time thought - I think I need a pseudo/random name for some occassions, something like sid daddy smooth kachumbari or super-mishmash-kachumbari....

source of this random conversation is i went over some profile names on FB

where else in the world right now are Millions of people re-inventing themselves as a social fit versus social misfit

someone should right a thesis on this....

anyway back to reality
xoxo

of love friends and lovers

2010-03-02T07:39:00.000-08:00

cue sound, and the love song of the movie plays, they see each other across the room/table/train station/party/office/hallway... they meet later they fumble thru knowing each otehr before admitting its love they fall in love, they fight one runs away the other mops about like a wet bucket, tehn is kickeed into gear by friend then manages to get to airport/railway/bus station just in time (strange no traffic there) to see their loved one as they board they turn they get off the crowd cheers as they kiss/hug/weep/smalie lovingly in each others eyes.... got that? ok. PRESS STOP REWIND EJECT

THATS THE MOVIES BLONDIE! LOL

here is life as i see it today; you can be friends and lovers, friends with benefits, not friends with benefits aka hook uop, lovers with benefits, lovers without benefits aka open relationship anything i have missed out? lol

CUT - NEXT SCENE

am sitting having coffee and chicken pie with a friend at lunch, she had coffee I had chicken pie, lots of chilli - some like it hot! (Mwahhahahahaha)

and as we are talking about how she not all of thirty yet keeps meeting million dollar trading single stunning gorgeous business men and I have met in the last 2 weeks i would say about 5-6 married men - DL whatever u call it. Now am not dissing them some people like it swinging that way, I dont - nothing personal just have visions of diary of a mad black woman waking me up with a bunny stew or hack saw, wait thats the movies again blondie, a mad black woman would be wielding a hack saw with her possee of fashionista pseudodram back up singers walking towards u pals screeching at the top of their voices at Gypsies/havana/my flat you get the drill...

but here is the thing I got that cracked us up - there is a mature group of single gay men interested in relationships conversation good food good wine we have our car, flat friends and are doing ok for all intents and purposes

then u have a twink radical uppity gonna sho u whateva speakin save my last dime for the jeans falling off my no ass body kinda guy

and in between you have a twilight zone where the 35 plus venture sometimes for emergency rations, then hurdle back to suburbia and u have the twinky uppities come up to venture into the twilight wanna be there someday zone

the twinks always say what about us we want mature men try me give me a chance and the 35plus say where have all the good men gone?

CUT NEXT SCENE

am still in the office - hmmmm - and single - HMMMMMMM - ROTFLMGBAO!

The Nature of Choice

2010-02-03T02:15:00.000-08:00

The nature of choice is that it never occurs to us as human beings as choice. How things, situations, relationships, arguments, interests show up for us is THIS or THAT never THIS AND THAT

Take for example the last month I have had, met a great guy, talked a lot, texted a lot, then we all went back to work after the 4th Jan and BAM! work and school schedules hit... I tell you there are days trying to find time to even meet is like as DVD so very well put it, like trying to meet the Obama's for dinner... I tell ya I have gnashed my teeth at night, worked last in the day to avoid going home and talked myself into and out off and into and out off it all like a yo-yo on speed on a hot summers day lol

so, again the nature of choice is that we never see its a matter of this AND that. Finally after dealing with myself, my anxieties, neurosis, friends and messages, I get that am either going to make a go for it however that looks like or feels or throw the towel in and start again - Now, who the heck wants to go back to square one and start looking again - I ask you? show me anyone that says that and I will show u a shyster and fraud! no one, NO ONE ever ever ever wants to go back to singletown or one man show once u have seen the other side

so now what, well now, I had a conversation, real live, not text not email not anything but voice to voice and created a choice in the moment, however this goes am taking it day by day week by week, at some point, like all things extraordinary and insane, there comes a tipping point, and after that tipping point comes... I don't know! but guess what, I am not there, there is no future, there is only now, and the choice is now

cheesy? yea! Old fashioned Romantic, you bet your last bounce on a bubble butt shilling I am!!!!!

Band of Brothers

2010-01-16T22:38:00.000-08:00

Am feeling sentimental today, kind of open and vulnerable... happens sometimes...lol so the search fro equilibrium, balance, relationship, peace of mind is ongoing and man oh man what a trip its getting to be... ding sing ding welcome to hoochytown, whoooo! all aboard, bumpy-ville next stop!! hahaha

anyway so I wake up this morning with this feeling of peace and uncertainty all at once, kinda nice feeling to have while still wrapped up in my favourite winter duvet, yes i live in karen and some nights are winter, and i started to think of Band of Brothers, this amasing, most well written, filmed and raw docu-drama about a group of men in the same unit in the second world war.

Now you may be sitting there wondering what the heck is he on about, well let me illuminate, elucidate and dilute the thought for you... LOL

I spent the best part of yesterday with some of the best peeps I happen to know, some of the Mafia, a couple new friends and my BFF with whom we have been through about 15 years of our lives...

Anyway, at the end of the evening I acknowledge to myself, it really does take something to be proud gay and not dramatic about it all... it really takes a band of brotherhood to keep each other sane, mature, grounded and constantly downloading the pain, confusion, disappointment, rough terrain, 4x4 days, starting to get the link now...

The best part of the mini-series for me is the line, we brave, we few, we band of brothers...

http://www.hbo.com/events/bob/index.html

A new day a new start

2010-01-06T01:03:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year one and all, its taken 6 days to figure out what to say for the first post and even then to be honest it was all 6 days of drama and significance and wondering what to say... so here goes where I have ended up as a starting point...

For what you want this year may oyu have it with ease and grace, for the love of your life, may they cherish and never know you fully so they are always asking and questioning, for the work you do and the career you have, want are creating, may it flourish, bear fruit, and explode as a self expression of your true self, and for yourself - may you have the freedom, love, grace and generosity of life, laughter and love you so richly deserve and may your richly tailor it to make a difference in someones life every day

Mingi love
Sid Kachumbari.

A year well worn and the future to be

2009-12-20T23:01:00.000-08:00

Tis' that time of the year again, the end is nigh! I always laugh when I see those guys in the movies with a placard shouting, THE END IS NIGH THE END IS NIGH REPENT YOUR SINS! LMAO

But as I think of the year that i have had, its a mix of the good the bad and the undecided clutter of what have I achieved, produced, and what is ultimately next for me.

December is a double whammer for me as its also my birthday month, I turned 38 on December 14th. 38! ROCKS! is my slogan and campaign theme for the year, i.e. till I turn 39... any theme songs welcome and appreciated...

Lets see, I started blogging and have11 followers, yea babe! to the from now on always to be called the KAchumbari's 11. IMagine Oceans 11 but with more flair, fashion and fabulosity! hahahaha! thanks to one and all for the following, the amazing extraordinary blogs you also write that I follow. In a sense you have been the few, the brave, the bold that have been lightning rods for change, transformation and transition...

Its been a breakthrough year for me in so many ways, I have met some of the most awesome, inspiring and extraordinarily ordinary and unspoken, understated revolutionaries this year. Men and women who stand for more than we will ever know and cause. From the sublimely sexy to the wickedly tantalizing, form the solid stand by me friends to the scintillating sassy peeps.

Mingi to love the the Mafia that I met this year, you guys rock more than 38 does...

for the next couple of weeks my plan is to clear the clutter, create the future and experience each day truly madly and deeply... brace yourself world, Don Sid Kachumbari is on holiday.

Kuwa na Heri Njema!
Merry Christmas one and all
Bohemian - Vesele Vanoce
Chinese - Shen tan jie kuai le. Hsin Nien Kuaile
French - Joyeux Noel et Bonne Année!
Hawaian - Mele Kalikimaka ame Hauoli Makahiki Hou!
Italian - Buon Natale e Felice Anno Nuovo!
Japanese - Meri Kurisumasu soshite Akemashite Omedeto!
Latin - Natale hilare et Annum Faustum!
Yoruba - E ku odun, e ku iye'dun!

Happy Birthday to me today!

2009-12-14T02:36:00.000-08:00

How Happy Birthday is Said Around the World:

Afrikaans - Veels geluk met jou verjaarsdag!

Albanian - Urime ditelindjen!

Alsatian - Gueter geburtsdaa!

Amharic - Melkam lidet!

Arabic - Eed melad said

Armenian - Taredartzet shnorhavor! or Tsenund shnorhavor!

Assyrian - Eida D'moladukh Hawee Brikha!

Australia - Happy Birthday

Austrian-Viennese - Ois guade winsch i dia zum Gbuadsdog!

Aymara (Bolivia) - Suma Urupnaya Cchuru Uromankja!

Basque - Zorionak!

Belauan-Micronesian - Ungil el cherellem!

Bengali (Bangladesh/India) - Shuvo Jonmodin!

Bislama (Vanuatu) - Hapi betde! or Yumi selebretem de blong bon blong yu!

Brazil - Feliz Aniversario, Feliz Feliz Aniversario

Breton - Deiz-ha-bloaz laouen deoc'h!

Bulgarian - Chestit Rojden Den!

Cambodian - Som owie nek mein aryouk yrinyu!

Canada - Happy Birthday

Catalan - Per molts anys! or Bon aniversari!

Chamorro - Biba Kumpianos!

China - Sheng Ri Kuai Le or Saang yaht faai lokik

Croatian - Sretan Rodendan!

Czech - Vsechno nejlepsi k Tvym narozeninam!

Danish - Tillykke med fodselsdagen!

Dutch - Hartelijk gefeliciteerd metje verjaardag

Ecuador - Feliz Dia del Santo

Egypt - Kule Sana Winta Tayib (boy)
Kule Sana Wintie Tayyiba (Girl)

English - Happy Birthday!

Esperanto - Felichan Naskightagon!

Estonian - Palju onne sunnipaevaks!

Euskera - Zorionak zure urtebetetze egunean!

Faroes (Faroe island) - Tillukku vid fodingardegnum!

Farsi - Tavalodet Mobarak!

Finnish - Hyvaa syntymapaivaa!

France - Joyeux Anniversaire!

French-canadian - Bonne Fete!

Frisian - Lokkiche jierdei!

Gaelic - Co latha breith sona dhut!

Galician (Spain) - Ledicia no teu cumpreanos!

Germany - Alles Gute zum Geburstag or
Herzlichen Glückwunsch zum Geburtstag

Georgian - Gilotcav dabadebis dges!

Ghana - Happy Birthday
Medzi dzigbe njkeke nyuie no wo (ewe tribal language)

Great Britain - Happy Birthday

Greek - Eftixismena Genethlia! or Chronia Pola!

Greenlandic - Inuununnu pilluarit!

Gronings (Netherlands) - Fielsteerd mit joen verjoardag!

Gujarati (India) - Janma Divas Mubarak!

Hawaiian - Hau oli la hanau!

Hebrew - Yom Huledet Same'ach!

Hiligaymon (Philippines) - Masadya gid nga adlaw sa imo pagkatawo!

Hindi - Janam Din Ki Badhai

Hungarian - Boldog szuletes napot

Icelandic - Til hamingju med afmaelisdaginn!

India - Sal Girah Mubarak

Indonesian - Selamat Ulang Tahun!

Irish - gaelic - La-briethe mhaith agat! or Briethla Shona Dhuit!

Israel - Yom Holedet Sameach

Italian - Buon compleanno! or Bun Cumpleani!

Japanese - Otanjyobi omedeto Gozaimasu!

Javaans-Indonesia - Slamet Ulang Tuanmoe!

Korean - Saeng il chuk ha ham ni da!

Latin - Fortuna dies natalis!

Latvian - Daudz laimes dzimsanas diena!

Lithuanian - Sveikinu su gimtadieniu! or Geriausi linkejimai gimtadienio proga!

Macedonian - Sreken roden den!

Malaysian - Selamat Hari Jadi!

Maltese - Nifrahlek ghal gheluq sninek!

Maori - Kia Huritau ki A Koe

Mexico - Feliz Cumpleanos

Mongolian - Torson odriin mend hurgee!

Native American - Haptee Hocuenera Hinigiren

The Netherlands - Van Harte Gefeliciteerd or
Hjertelig til lykke medfodselsdagen

Nigeria - Eku ojobi

Norway - Gratulere Med Daged

Persian - Tavalodet Mobarak!

Peru - Feliz Cumpleanos

Polish - Wszystkiego Najlepszego! or Wszystkiego najlepszego z okazji urodzin!

Portuguese (Brazil) - Parabens pelo seu aniversario!

Portuguese - Felix Aniversrio! or Parabens!

Quebec - Bonne Fete

Romanian - La Multi Ani!

Russia - s'dnom roshedenea or Sdnyom rozhdenya

Samoan - Manuia lou aso fanau!

Serbian - Srecan Rodjendan!

Spanish - Feliz cumpleanos

Sri Lankan - Suba Upan dinayak vewa!

Sudan - Aid Milad Jamil

Swedish - Grattis pa fodelsedagen!

Taiwanese - San leaz quiet lo!

Thai - Suk San Wan Keut

Turkish - Dogum gunun kutlu olsun!

Ukranian - Mnohiya lita! or Z D dnem naradjennia!

Venezuela - Hoy Es Tu Dia

Vietnamese - Chuc Mung Sinh Nhat!

Welsh - Penblwydd hapus

Yiddish - A Freilekhn Gebortstog!

a thin line here #2

2009-12-08T07:43:00.000-08:00

So where do you draw the line before its a relationship?

a thin line here

2009-12-01T00:21:00.000-08:00

OMG! I just looked at my list of blogs and its like a regular porn festival of men, nudity, semi nudity... LMAO

am I a porn-pimp? is there such a thing... hmmmmmmmmm

food for thought

world aids day - be good, play HARD wear a glove!

Gift yourself this Xmas

2009-11-29T22:55:00.001-08:00

Grace, love, pride and Joy.... we hear them, know them, and take the case mostly we take no notice of them as our job to cause for ourselves...

What if your experience of yourself at any moment was of someone graceful, in love with and at the source of love for yourself and others, proud of who you are no matter what and Joyful for what you have,are and offer... illusion? nah! possible

Grace is a gift you give yourself, love is something you are hardwired to give and receive - IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF - pride and joy are a natural self expression innately human, you are human, rights? heartbeat?... lol

Have a blessed, love filled, joyful day, grant yourself the grace to stand tall, be yourself and keep the faith

Better to be Alive than just a life...

STAND TALL, KEEP THE FAITH, SPEAK OUT

2009-11-25T07:45:00.000-08:00

Here is the link for the Commission of Enquiry FB page, go forth and be heard

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=178758592116

what lies between

2009-11-19T02:52:00.000-08:00

So its been a while since my last blog - achilles heel and all.. watch where u step... lol and have been having a bit of writers block...

they say the best way or one of thebest ways to cear writers block is t just start writing... so here goes...

over the last few months I took on my self, my relationship to myself, my friends and basically my world... sounds grand right? been so not that...lol

its been like a regular good ol episode of the waltons, wake up, work, home, sleep, wake up work, home... well went back to our regular table at Art Caffee on our regular day - all hail the mafia... the waitress chastised us enough, how dare we upset their mojo of having us there - ahh hello what happened to its my life... LMAO anyweay was great to be home, even mildly told off the owner for taking too long to bring drinks, hey we the mafia... uta do?

anyway moving along swiftly, back to the title of this blog, and really at the heart of what am dealing with thinking about wondering about, what lies between being horny, lusting for someone, meeting them, and becoming friends?

what am looking at is at what point if you dont get it on do they become a friends or an aquiantance or a lover without shagging them straight off? mama taught me nbetter than that by the way...

so what lies between... dont know but am still looking... be good and play nice y'all... back soon...

Achilles Heel and Pandora's box. Go figure...

2009-10-27T23:58:00.000-07:00

In greek mythology, Achilles was the son of the nymph Thetis and Peleus, the king of the Myrmidons. Later legends (beginning with a poem by Statius in the first century AD state that Achilles was invulnerable in all of his body except for his heel. Since he died due to a poisoned arrow shot into his heel, the "Achilles' heel" has come to mean a person's principal weakness.

So the last couple of weeks have been a mixed basket of fruit, I have again had the pleasure of meeting some extraordinary men, both live and online, yea yea yea am a man of both worlds OK... lol. I have flirted my socks of, AND ONLY my socks off.... watch it boys keep it clean... :)

But at the back of my mind there has been this nagging feeling or thought, maybe watching all those episodes of Queer as Folk have something to do with it or not, but I dont want to end up as everyones best friend and no ones lover, see I think, no scrap that, I am clear that so far until this point I have been super successful at being the best friend, the confidant, the listener and the soul master of my life... whether this rings true for you or not, am not sure, and to be honest not sure it matters that much. While there is a grand temptation to be Brian Kinney, Michael Novotney has some heart and soul...

Now dont get me wrong, am not saying my friendships with ya'll dont matter, what am saying is, my achilles heel is winning right now, and if I dont get that darn poisoned arrow out, it will point to one of 2 things:

1 - I actually dont want it out - ARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH or
2 - Something need to be interrupted and re directed, re created, rejuvenated

I just realized I also don't have a friggin clue where this blog is going and it s brilliant place to start, on the edge of a precipice, at the start of a journey, imagine the pioneers of yesteryear, wide open prairies, the gold rush, the cowboys an injun... lol lol

well how about gettin me some of that spirit...

A pioneer is defined as someone who leads the way, opens up new territory, forges ahead, breaks new ground, initiates and establishes...

So here is a novel thought to counter, rip out your Achilles heel, whatever you have been doing and being so far and is not getting you the results you want, CEASE AND DESIST. Consider doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result insanity - Change course, forge new ground, establish new trends, break new ground, lead the way don't follow, open up Pandora's box if you have to... who said the end of the world was a bad thing, so far has it gotten you what you want ? if not? what you got to loose?

so strap on that gun totting belt, arm your pistol, grab the lion taming whip, jump into them boots and straddle that horse and ride of into the unknown... swash buckling and daringly as you wish

Hook Up or Take Down

2009-10-21T03:15:00.000-07:00

so the idea of the gay mature guys and gals club is slowly taking root in my head and the cogs are starting to twist and turn while the chains are yanking and chaining... ?!!??! lol

and what I would to get feed back on from you all and anyone els you can ask, speak with find out from is:

Are there enough single, mature, professional gay, bisexual guys and gals who would be interested in the idea of a monthly dinner, rotating or at a set friendly venue to meet network professionally, and socially and then after dinner/drinks they can change numbers and meet up?

let me know we could have something good here, spread the word and let me know

face off

2009-10-18T11:19:00.001-07:00

question: why are gay women more likely to show their faces on social networks than gay men?

Kaizer Sause

2009-10-16T07:06:00.000-07:00

Ever watch that movie with Kevin Spacey where he is a master criminal but u dont find out till the end? The Usual Suspects?

Well, am convinced and paranoid enough to assert we have some of them here in our midst... LMAO

How many faceless gay profiles have u seen recently? how many turn out to be dubious or suspicious?

LMGBAO I rest my case

Sinner or Saint

2009-10-14T06:58:00.000-07:00

So you know when you say or declare something whatever is not that thing shows up, well, did i have to brace myself this week, having started the inquiry into what next, hook ups or wait for the relationship....

its been a lucky dip, a bag of mixed nuts and you could even say a peek-a-boo into Pandora's box... think of it like round the gay world in 7 days (or so).

am no where clearer to what next but am really settled in a couple of things, first of all there is nothing wrong with the occasional hook up, I have just started looking at the guys more clearly, before there were hormone horny driven intentions at play. Now am telling like it is, you could say ruthless compassion or straight talk or what ever u want to call it, and by the way this is with myself first and foremost not the other guys yet.

I have met amazingly charming and to a certain extend naive guys online and in person, I have spoken to old hook ups accidentally reconnecting with them online... yikes! that was one to be never revisited.. haha I have learne this much is true, cut the bull shit, dont make myself to be anything am not, dont gloss it over in the hope tomorrow when you've reeled them in you will sort it out... that one will bitch in the ass and not in the way u want it to kinky!!!!

so I sent out a couple of profile changes and messages on the sites am still a member off, and took it upon myself to not gloss, pretend, justify or suggest anything and just say it like it is....

results I hear you ask? well, its early days yet but I will say this, people have surprisingly delighted me and made me smile....

have I been a sinner in the past lying, closing over, flirting outrageously, suggested, insinuated? yes! i have, has it been fun, yes sometimes, have their been consequences you betcha, that accidental re meeting.... ahhhhhhahhhhhhhhh yup it come back and bitcha.... would I do it again, I dont know to be honest but I do know this, I would absolutely say from the get go, am an otrageous flirt, the mafia know this, when I hit my groove, you wanna be with me, I promise you, its sheer brilliance... yes am flaunting my skills and owning them... who else going to do it for me? well I could always hire an agent... hahahaha any mature pimpin sorry relationship consultants out there? hmmm maybe a niche market here coupled with my private dinner parties.... hmmm me gots to think about this one...

any way I digress... so yes am a sinner and I confess my sins hehehehe but some be good ones... the manager at Java... hehehe no comment, lets say I will get a good table pretty much mostly when he on duty... DVD u know the one we stunned into running for the hills...

So if am a sinner am I going to atone my sins and become a saint??????? go figure, is it fun fabulous and freely me self expression.... who knows I for sure dont but am going out there to find out, wanna come? your shout I hear u say as the waiter approaches.... :)

No more MR. Flirt Guy!

2009-10-11T03:14:00.000-07:00

So I find myself in a dilemma today, the questions is do I keep flirting and I know I will find alot of willing receiptients and maybe some more hook-up interested guys OR do I chuck that in and limit myself to the serious guys interested in relationships?

well the dilemma gets a bit more interesting or damning depending on which side of the bed I wake up, see am not your typical trendy designer dressed designer cologne gay guy, am your 3 tattoos ear rings checked shirts corduroy trousers workaholic nice guy who loves his friends and family, sometimes has a stubble, not by design but by work schedule times and oh yeah am a gorgeous bear-ish size guy

so when the night falls and am out there with my boy's otherwise referred to from here on in as the Mafia, I don't fit into the stereotypical slot

now dont get me wrong, I would not change a single thing about me, am brave, precious, kinky minded and sorted, but I am beginging, well, re thinking the whole relationship versus hook ups conversation.

the next couple of blogs will be for me a journey am sharing and hopefully sharing with u, yes that means u talk back to me people, remember I know the Mafia, lol, I am now interested, like lets talk about this and figure it out, who knows, it may help a 20 something newly out guy make it and avoid the pot holes and jams we went through

in a midnight genius moment last night I even thought, well why not start a mature professional by invitation only group? like really, no pics, no membership, no liars, jokers, drama queens etc etc

but a group where guys are not afraid to say who they are, where they work, what they want, what they are looking for.... yes selfish for me but hey, if it supports and grows our world, then am all game, after all I spend too much time online anyway, might as well make it worth something.... oh flash of genius, we could even make it about dinner at great restaurants like Onami, imagine that 6-8 guys meeting up, no drama, no craziness, just dinner drinks a good laugh...

hmmmm... me likey likey

what next? is this my time?

2009-10-04T21:29:00.000-07:00

So I have been thinking about my blog and the direction i take, as DVD said its more musing and thoughts, while I enjoy this immensely and everytime i have a new follower I celebrate with my own mental hi five dance, muchos gracias! Asante sana, thank you

so I am thinking of a couple of things; either start a second blog more driven, challenging and thought provoking or changing thought and direction with this blog...

taking thoughts and questions now.... :)

Rules of engagement

2009-10-02T14:51:00.000-07:00

Hear ye, hear ye! these are the rules of engagement!

(what are yours?)

Never take sides with a straight when your with your mo' friends
Always be on time for all dates, first, second or last - we don't have time to go solo, that's fro the straights
In the event of a fire, don't run out like a screaming bitch, man up! and smolder out of the room, fierce and keeping eye contact with the hot sweaty fireman
If your going to wear make up, make it flawless, we don't tolerate mistakes easily

fierce and sassy

2009-10-01T02:35:00.000-07:00

SO I went to the GALCK launch yesterday at secrets, needless to say this for me on a wednesday night really took something, weekday and all... but, and its a great nice but, it was so worth it for 2 reasons;

1. all the fierce and sassy guys and gals dressed and made up flawlessly, step aside miss Knowles, kenya has arrived, AND

2. all the great, gracious, and fabulosity driven diversity that was on display - we have indeed come a long way

bottom line, yes today is about but's and bottom's lol, so the bottom line, kudos to us all for what we have stood for, continue to stand for, be and create... your one in a million!

kleenex... please! hehehehehe but y'all know what I mean... :)

What I miss???

2009-09-25T00:18:00.000-07:00

Everyone FREEZE! i just spoke to about the 4th person leaving the country?!?!?!?!

what I miss? was there an emergency plan, memo, email, skype I missed????

what the hay!

The Men Project

2009-09-24T05:50:00.000-07:00

I have been looking for this for a while now, saw it I think last year, just found it in the midst of a 'I am tired my eyes are bloodshot let me surf a bit'... lol

http://sites.google.com/site/menproject/

enjoy

Sid.XP now available

2009-09-23T04:05:00.000-07:00

If your in the market for a pair of F*&k me boots dont go into a grocery shop.... in the same vein if your in the market for a pair of nice fitting but showing, bulge insinuating pair of jeans dot go into a tea shop... starting to get the jist of this...?

so I had an epiphanous, is that word real???, weekend, Idd Mubbarak, and one of the things I have been whinning about, whinging about and not doing anything about is not being able to find good, mature, professional men to hang out with and maybe end up in a relationship with. All I have been doing apart form the just said, yea yea I know, is get myself on a couple of websites, and chat a lot with guys online ad infinitum... blah blah blah

so at the end of this epiphanous moment I took myself off the said/hinted sites ad have start strategy; the reinvention of Sid Kachumbari aka Sid.XP

so hear ye hear ye all; Sid.XP is now available for dinner, drinks, long conversations and developing new applications, windows and programmes.

Potential subscribers must be: mature, professional, have a great sens of humor and self, sociable yet homely, can be tried at home or elsewhere hence mobile, colour not an issue, grace and style an asset.

I am available for interviews and can personally interview or over dinner with friends.

Sid.XP - be good, be great! Now available

10 things every gay boy should have

2009-09-22T13:49:00.000-07:00

and they said these be the 10 things that every gay boy should have... LOL

http://www.homorazzi.com/article/fashion-ten-essentials-items-men-gays-should-buy-closet-must-haves-style-guide/

Of muse, love and sex #2

2009-09-19T22:25:00.000-07:00

I just goggled 'Famous Gay Africans' and it brings up, 'Did you mean Famous Gay Americans' - Biatch no I did not mean that...... if I did, I would have said that...

p.s. are there none???

Of muse, love and sex #1

2009-09-19T22:12:00.000-07:00

When I was in the military they gave me a medal for killing two men and a discharge for loving one. ~Epitaph of Leonard P. Matlovich, 1988 (Thanks, Marlene)

The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision. ~Lynn Lavner

Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? ~Ernest Gaines

Homosexuality is god's way of insuring that the truly gifted aren't burdened with children. ~Sam Austin

If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." ~Robin Tyler

I think God is a callous bitch not making me a lesbian. I'm deeply disappointed by my sexual interest in men. ~Diamanda Galas

Wouldn't it be great if you could only get AIDS from giving money to television preachers? ~Elayne Boosler

Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people. ~Martina Navratilova

Labels? Okay, fine. I'm bisensual. Heteroflexible. And life-curious. That about covers it. ~Morgan Torva

Of men, manners and being gay

2009-09-16T03:12:00.000-07:00

great article i found,

http://www.out.com/detail.asp?page=1&id=25886

check it out

is there a tipping point coming our way

2009-09-15T13:10:00.000-07:00

So just got off the phone with a friend and we talked for about 40 minutes about all things serious corporate, liberal, neighborly, legal and LGBT and one of the things we seemed to be in mutual agreement is that there is a tipping point coming our way.

let me expound on that, damn i like that work and been looking ofr where to use it, lol, yes I entertain easily, back to point, there is an extraordinarily brave and courageous and in my humble opinion public generation F - yes generation fabulous, gay and bitchy that's nipping at the heels of the LGBT cause in kenya right now. AND before anyone jumps down my throat, am also acknowledging all the other men and women doing what they doing for LGBT rights that am not doing or willing to do right now.

is the tipping point coming our way> You betcha it is... so now what? well, try this on, Be Good! Do Great!

how long is long enough

2009-09-14T05:35:00.000-07:00

So sleeping beauty waited as long as she did, goldilocks had to grow them curls to find him, will took what 8 seasons to find his bliss (grace was always there but sheee dont tell anyone) LMAO so how long is long enough?

people say, and who the heck are these people, that wait and you shall receive, seek and ye shall find, smile more, loose weight, gain weight, go out, dont go out too much, be flirty not slutty, be slutty but in a flirtatious way and on and on and on... OMG!!! are we there yet???

so, how long is long enough, by my reckoning, it will take as long as it takes, not a moment sooner...

I know, faith and all that.... hmmmmm

sinead's hand in marriage - brilliant ad

2009-09-05T08:55:00.000-07:00

this is awesome

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

fabulosity - get some!

2009-09-04T00:55:00.000-07:00

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=fabulosity

http://www.blackvoices.com/black_lifestyle/style_beauty_features_advice_galleries/fabulosity

what? am not a size 8??? 9???

2009-09-03T14:30:00.000-07:00

LMBGAO - get your mind out of that gutter.... LOL so I went into a shoe shop to day and found a devine pair of boots, yes I like my boots - there are 3 kinds of boots - Gum boots, damn dont they look good on a sweaty contruction worker, builder or anyone hot, hard and sweaty, there are work boots, functional, comfortable and casual - and then Oh my lordy there are F&*k me fabulosity boots... gots me a pair - only and i say this whinging and cracking up, the lady at the shoe told me am a size smaller that I have been thinking... I mean woman! what the hay is wrong with ya????

single gorgeous man

2009-08-31T21:31:00.000-07:00

ok ok ok I get it, life is life, be the change you want to see and all that, but the question I have is how does this apply to meeting great guys or a guy hang out with, be friends with, get into a relationship with?

given the fast pace of work in most of our daily lives, am standing here wondering what next...

Hunter or the Hunted?

2009-08-26T23:56:00.001-07:00

So, someone tell me, why he hell does everyone want to be chased??? if we all being chased, woo'ed, hunted who the heck is left chasing us? tunning us??? LMAO

this i know to be true

2009-08-24T22:32:00.001-07:00

this i know to be true; so I have been away from the blog for awhile now, missed y'all and have a found my way back here...

this much i know to be true: there are some damn good guys out there and we dont give ourselves enough crdit for that. loyal, good friends, professional and true

this much i know to be true, flirting and being flirtatious is soooooo much fun, gave away my numer to cute armany trouser guy... hehehe met a tight shirted hot hot fella at a restaurant who gave us shots... we love ya man!

this much I know to be true; the truth is men are beautiful and gay men are damn hot! in body mind and spirit

this much I know to be true, you got my back and I have yours

its good to be alive not just a life!!!

xoxo

love, sex and money

2009-07-09T14:26:00.000-07:00

Love sex and money make the world go round...

Love is the fairy tale thing we chase after, wish for and desire

Sex is the hard wet sticky world we love to live in, participate and trade in... (alot, alone or a long!!)

Money? money makes the world go round, buys u whatever u think it will or not.

However you look at it, show me some love, gimme some sex and who cares about your money....

when is mating season again?

2009-06-29T21:36:00.000-07:00

so I went out last friday night, the usual night out with the biys, drink, music, eye candy, window shopping, you know the drill... I have to say here, having not done this for a while its getting quite interesting this social butterfly thing, watching the eye candy flaunt themselves as the do their mating dances, always keeping an eye out for who's watcing,picture this 2 guys, fit as fiddles, circling round each other, flaunting it, moving it, gyrating - now picture ths, a circle of other boys jaws on the floor, drooling like the niagra falls, watching the boys ....

the mating dance, each boy has his own, each boy has the one they love to watch, feathers plucked, hair groomed, all cleaned up and dandy... lol so when's the mating dance happening again? lol

alive, not just a life...

butterfly kisses

2009-06-25T21:49:00.000-07:00

I miss a good ol' sexy am in love kiss, you knw the one that starts with the look, that moment of yeah! I want to kiss oyu nice and slow right now, not the rushed pecking kis or the hard breathing almost knock you teeth out kiss... but the soft, butterfly light kiss that starts at the oit of your stomach and ends up with goosebumps on your arms, an nice strong arm holding you, firm but not too tight, deep but not chocking... yea I miss butterfly kisses...

Sink or Swim

2009-06-17T03:26:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I took a risk, went for a swim, not the tight trunks and ripped abs unfortunately... see I have been watching and talking to this one friend of mine for a while now, and we go through the usual laps, or at least I hope to the gods of Versace, Prada and all that fashionable its usual, bland regular hows work how are you talk, hows life, hows love, mild to 6 double Whiskey late night out horny late night talks, quirky middle of the day, you know the kind... lol

So swimming along, after a couple of weeks of this, and I have been having this nagging thought called, what the hay are you waiting for? you keep saying your interested in getting back into a relationship, how the hay do you think it will happen if you don't say something, make the first move, be the change you want to see in the world, if you don't do it who will, all that stuff we read and hear on telly, in magazines, even on blogs, people actually making it as couples, getting into relationships....

so I did, I told him what I felt, what I wanted, that I was willing to wait for him to work out some stuff and then see what happens next... Silence.... then shock and awe from him... then happiness and a dazzling smile... phew! don't need them floaters any more then... I CAN SWIM! floods through my mind, this swimming along thing actually works...

I always, well mostly end my blogs with alive not just a life, and boy oh boy do I feel alive...

what are the ground rules

2009-06-15T01:56:00.000-07:00

The idea of having a blog and actually managing it and having other people read it is like salt and pepper for me, or actually sugar and spice, i like extremes, you will find out over time.. anyway back to the idea, I love reading peoples blogs I think people are incredibly courageous and generous with who they are and what they are dealing with... and am speaking specifically about the gay men and women in Kenya, Africa, pretty much anywhere...

see am 37 gay, kenyan, recently single... and am dealing with a whole new world of dating again, hanging out with the guys, friends new and old.. finding my footing again... and one of the best resources I have is the amazingly frank, sometimes sad and often hilarious ramblings, rants and raves, yes am a big fan of theirs, wilde yearings, yup! i often read and now follow...

after a couple of months of this I stared to think, i need ground rules fro dating, i need something to fall back on or a map or heck an idea of how to go back out there, as a mature professional guy, 37, not muscle ripped, a hopeless romantic and looking for love... thats quite a mouth full, pardon the pun.... not intended...

so here are my ground rules for this week;
1- any opportunity is an opportunity to flirt and find love
2 - never compromise my standards even for a hook up, beautiful as he may be...
3 - use the boys network to meet other guys, (take the case your friends are a direct reflection of the kind of person you are, if you have flighty friends, go figure, if you have solid friends yup,,,)
4 - I deserve the best and am not settling for less.. (even the best sex counts... lol)

so I dont know how thsi will turn out, I dont mind how it all turns out and I hope to the gods of absolute and bacardi that I have as much fun a long the way as I can....

its good to be alive, not just a life...